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Showing posts with label moving on. Show all posts
Showing posts with label moving on. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 7, 2024

Delete? (Dealing with Baggage)

In the Philippines we have a more appropriate term for "baggage". We call it "bubog" which means pieces of broken glass or shrapnel. I think it's a better term since trauma is painful and broken glass causes wounds. "Mga bubog sa puso", shrapnels in the heart. Filipino language is indeed beautiful don't you think?




Anyway, I saw a friend post this on his timeline, "Delete conversations that hurt you whenever you read them. Delete phone numbers. Block contacts. Restrict. Mute. Unfollow. Remove negative energy from your life. Do whatever it is that you need to do in order to heal and create a positive environment for yourself."




Which brings me to today's "wellness" topic - should you delete/block/mute/unfollow people/circumstances that bring negativity and stress to your life? In my experience, YES. I have experienced this a number of times and I had to do this to protect myself and my family from the circumstance (people) causing stress. 

I try my best to hold on as much as I could, but my health suffered because of that. It's important to know when you should stop holding on so you can protect yourself. I had unfortunately held on and suffered the consequences of getting sick. I have since learned to move on when I feel I'm being taken for granted or being taken advantage of.

One thing the "advise" above doesn't cover is what happens when you have healed? Well, it's something I only realized yesterday. Once your ready and your heart has healed you can then unblock, unmute, unrestrict, follow back. Sometimes you have to take chances especially if it involves family. Don't hold on to grudges because it doesn't do any good in the long run. Now, if nothing has changed and it just brings back the negativity, well... you know what to do. 

#BeKind #StaySafe


Tuesday, May 18, 2021

Knowing When It's Time to Let Go

Break-up. Leave. Move on.  

Ending something is probably one of the hardest things to do. It always brings heartbreak and a mix of emotions. I have been through many of these painful moments, but I've always come out of it stronger and wiser. 

But how do you know when it's time to go? 

I must admit when it came to relationships it was always hard for me to let go. The reasons were always very obvious, but I always held on. I would just sum it up to what my Mom advised me before, "When you don't have the same values as your boyfriend, it will probably not last." I held on to those words when I finally walked out of a 7-year relationship. After that I just let God take over my love life. 

I had ten jobs before I found the one. My career movement was always driven by my quest to learn more. I did have my fair share of bad managers, but that's not what really drove me away (well, once). I had a list of skills I wanted to gain and that's what I followed whenever I moved to a new job. Key for me was to learn as much as I could. 

It's really hard to know when it's time to let go or pursue a new path. My Kuya gave me a list of questions I fill out whenever I have big decisions I have to make. He also advised me to do the St. Ignatius spiritual exercises to make sure that it is the right decision. 

CB///*Yr2/38  #StuckAtHomeDay/Yr2/65 #StayHome #BeKind